What is trust all about….wishful thinking
By admin • Mar 17th, 2009 • Category: acceptance, belief, education, ethics, innocence, parents, personal, valuesIt is disappointing to trust people blindly and to find out that they were not really worth the trust. We meet people, like them, trust them then find out that they were not what we thought. This applies to everything in life: personal, work, and social life.
What really hurts is the disappointment not the action itself. The action maybe meaningless or not that hurtful, but it is the disappointment that one try to get over.
As a human, I have been brought up to take people at face value and to believe everything they say since they have no reason to lie. However, it turned out to be so untrue.
I don’t know if I should blame my mother or myself for these disappointments because of her way of bringing us up, it is true life is short, but the disappointments hurt more even though expected.
To trust is really nice, but very few deserve it. It is always wishful thinking not to get disappointed along the way.
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I still think that it is far better to extend a trusting hand and take people at face value. For practical reasons if not for anything else.
People are generally good. There are exceptions of course. But the overwhelming majority would comply with your mum’s assumptions.
But it is always the exception which makes the news and appears loud and remains in our memories. But there are thousands of instances if you care to remember where people reward your trust with honesty and loyalty. Of course one should not engage in important transactions with strangers based on unearned trust.
So, go on. Continue to extend trust. But take a gradual approach. Just like banks. Small loans. And as the other person comes through, increase the stakes, then until one day, you find out that they come into the “inner circle”
…. and if they fail at one point … just take them back a small step back, because now you know their limit.
Life is seldom black and white. Everything has a limit. The toughest bar of steel would break at a certain weight. Human morals, human endurance also has its limits. Most people would break at one point or another. Of course, specialists in torture and coercive interrogations use this as the basis of their dirty business.
Go on trusting. For your own sake.
…sometimes one may rush into judgements…this usually eminates from the pain we feel as a result of an incident…nothing is wrong with your approach of taking people at face value…always remember though that life is to short to wasted in recriminations, pain …etc……You live once, but once is enough if you live it right…
…life is a process…not a journey….hiccups…stopovers…problems…r not necessarily obstacles or the end of the earth….life goes on …love and affection are puritanical ……an attempt to rescue the truth….not fall to desperation and agony….love is an inertia…not the opposite…..just enjoy it……in purity….