I have been having this conversation with friends regarding marriage versus commitment.  Is it true that married people are committed? I don’t believe so.  I have seen hundreds of marriages of friends who married for love fall apart.  I believe marriage turns into prison after sometime for both parties and I am not a believer in open marriages which is the case of hundreds of couples who stay in a marriage because of children, image or family reasons including inheritance or money issues.

I believe that commitment is stronger and more fulfilling than marriage.  I have seen couples who are committed to each other for longer than the longest marriage, and I have also seen couples who are trapped in marriage and unable to make decisions to move on with their lives and remain in a loveless, fake marriages.

It is of course understandable that at this age and time, with our more and more conservative societies, the commitment issue is considered a taboo on its own, and that image and status make people opt for marriage specially when they decide to have children.  But what message do we want to give our children: committed parents or trapped parents??

I know that my ideas are avant garde for many people, but these are my beliefs and I stick by them.  Personally, I would rather be lonely than be in bad company or as the French say “Mieux seul que mal accompagnée” .